The Better Halves

Dana Maynard (wife of AJ, guitar for Sinclair), Sarah Caley (wife of Amos, singer for Attaboy), Shell Snyder (wife of Mike, drummer for Sinclair), Me (wife of Jeff, guitar for Attaboy)

We have been traveling with the band Sinclair for the past three weekends and it has been great! The band is from Columbus, Ohio. Three of the four members are married (singer Shell and drummer Mike are married to each other). We really can relate to the members of this band: they are in their mid-twenties and married, pursuing their calling to reach people through music. I have personally been inspired by their ministry.

I had the gift of sharing together with the lovely ladies above. We all have unique situations and perspectives that effect our view on this crazy life that we signed up for. It is encouraging to share with each other and realize that we are not alone; similar struggles, worries, hopes. Marriage is hard work, let alone with our unconventional lifestyle and schedule. I have learned so much about my identity and roles since being married. Mind if I share?

Throughout life you are asked: "What are you going to be when you grow up?" "What are you going to major in?" "What are you going to do after graduation?" Well, I guess I am grown up now. But who am I? A career? A degree? Not really. I have spent so much time and energy on what I am going to DO when I wish I could have spent more time on who i AM on the inside. It has been: Livelihood first, Life second. I thought that I would be teaching at this point in my life, and I sometimes get sad that I am not. I have been stripped of my so-called "identity" and it's scary what is left. Just me. It's hard and I am still working it all out, but I am grateful for being forced to find my identity in nothing other than Christ.